BRAHMACHARYA
Celibacy Attained With Understanding
EDITORIAL
This book is a compilation of satsang with Gnani
Purush Dadashri on the major topic of sexuality and all its overt and subtle
aspects. The nature of sexuality, its clear and present life dangers, as well
as potential dangers for the lives to come are described by the Gnani and then
the beneficial effects of brahmacharya are shown with scientific exactness.
Precise understanding, of practical attainment of brahmacharya, gained by
eradicating the root cause of sexuality, is given to the seeker. Taking into
deep consideration the varying levels of spiritual understanding of the seeker,
this abridged version of the two major volumes on brahmacharya, has been edited
to provide the complete spectrum of the ways to attain total brahmacharya with
understanding.
In Part One, Section
One: Contains the explosively powerful
words of the Gnani Purush, that will dissipate all elements of sexuality and
result in tremendous dispassion towards sex. The world, which is immersed in
the illusion of false enjoyment of sex, is awakened to the reality of the
poison that it truly is. Then, what is the right approach to bliss and how to
attain it are provided.
In Part One Section Two:
Having become convinced of the benefits of brahmacharya and truly inspired by
this discussion, the aspirant then dares to scale the mountain of brahmacharya
and expresses his willingness to do so. Having met the Gnai Purush and with his
continued nearness and grace, he takes the firm vow to be free from all
elements of sexuality through the mind, speech and the body. The Gnani Purush
then unfolds for him and remains there for him on this mighty path of
brahmacharya filled with all kinds of temptations, pitfalls and obstructions.
The Gnani remains with him until the attainment of total brahmacharya.
It is a wonder to see people
jump willingly into the very cesspool
of sexuality life after life, from which they have come out soiled and stinking, after great
difficulties! These people are really stuck in the refuse and are yearning for
escape but cannot find the way out. For these who really want a release from
this suffering, this unique new vision of the Gnani Purush becomes the
exclusive and guaranteed key to total liberation.
From all joint interactions
of the thoughts, speech and acts of sexuality the mahatma followers of Akram
Vignan experience a constant separation and bliss that is the Self. This is the
living experience of the married mahatmas who have to interact sexually as part
of their unfolding karma, while holding still their desire to rise in
brahmacharya. This means that the married state is not an obstruction to
brahmacharya!! This is taken into details in Part Two of Section One of this
book.
The practical applied brahmacharya
of the married state, the awareness of the Self in it, the line of demarcation
between the effect of karma and the independent effort of the awakened Self,
the vigilance against the horrors of illicit sex, the profuse inner remorse for
any sexual impulses, the precise and continuous opposition towards any form of
sexuality, the constant pratikramans towards any errors of subtle nature etc
are discussed here. Furthermore, very subtle scientific explanations that are
relevant in the matter of gross sexuality versus the subtlest nature of the
Self, the enjoyer of sex versus the total detached state of the Self, the real
doer of the faults versus the need to become faultless in matters of worldly
sex are all discussed with great clarity so that there is no room for
misapplication of these lofty principles for any loopholes and wanton freedom
in sex.
What lofty heights of vision
the Gnani Purush, in the great freedom of the fully enlightened Self, who moves
about unbound by any circumstance of the material world, unveils for us all!!
He initiates the cause brahmacharya in the light of this absolute vision and
experiential bliss for all who come to him seeking freedom from the clutches of
sexuality and its misery.
The uninterrupted pure
brahmacharya through the medium of thoughts, speech and acts that is the exact
prerequisite for final liberation, is that which stills one eternally in the
supreme bliss of the Self, uprooting all elements of worldly life interactions.
In this era of the Kaliyug this amazing feat is indeed possible through ‘Akram
Vignan’! The one who preserves such brahmacharya with the help of Akram Vignan
has a guarantee of liberation in one more lifetime.
In this environment rampant
with profuse sexuality and its vibrations all around the Gnani Purush’s
extraordinary and effective speech demolishes all elements of sexuality and
illusion of the seeker and makes him still in brahmacharya with understanding.
The reader is requested to use these great words of the Gnani with deference and
care so that the desired aim is attained.
Dr. Niruben Amin.
BRAHMACHARYA
Celibacy Attained With Understanding
PART ONE
Section One
The Real Nature Of Sexuality As Seen By The Gnani Purush
[1] The Detailed Analysis Of
Sexuality
Dadashri: Yes men and women happen to be part of nature. The account and
result of brahmacharya in this life is also a natural account. This world is the fruit of man’s deep inner
intent. This intent is laid down as a seed in the past life and the fruits come
forth in this life. If you had the deep inner intent for brahmacharya in your
past life, then brahmacharya will unfold in this life. The world is your own
projection.
Questioner: For what benefits should
one practice brahmacharya?
Dadashri: If you get hurt here on this arm and you start bleeding, why do
you do everything to stop the bleeding? What is the benefit?
Questioner: We do not bleed excessively.
Dadashri: What would happen if you do
bleed excessively?
Questioner: The body will become weak.
Dadashri: So it is with abrahmacharya
(incontinence of sexual impulses), the body becomes weak. All the diseases in
the body are due to abrahmacharya. Yogurt is not the end product of milk. Yogurt is converted to cream, which is
finally converted to butter. Similarly, all that you eat and drink, the air you
breathe, results in a final product, which is the essence of the body.
Brahmacharya is the ultimate essence of this complex of intake and output, this
living body.
There are two things in this
world that one should not waste. One is money and the other is semen. All the money
in this world is going down the drain. It should not be used for oneself. Money
should not be misused and one should practice brahmacharya as much as possible.
The ultimate extract of our nourishment is semen and it is dissipated and lost
in sex. There are certain nerves in the body that help preserve semen and this
in turn protects the body. Therefore, brahmacharya should be preserved as much
as possible.
Questioner: But, I still do not
understand why one should practice brahmacharya?
Dadashri: I am not trying to force
you into doing anything. You should be able to understand by yourself. It is a
different matter if you cannot practice brahmacharya, but you should never
oppose brahmacharya. Brahmacharya is the
best tool for health and spiritual progress.
Let go of this talk of
brahmacharya. Do not practice brahmacharya. I am not of the opinion that you
have to practice brahmacharya. I do tell people to get married. I do not have
any objection to people getting married.
Those who desire the
pleasures of worldly life and have a desire for material things, they should
get married and those who do not like worldly pleasures and are seeking eternal
happiness, should not get married.
Questioner: Is it true that the married
people attain real knowledge, atmagnan later than those who are not yet
married?
Dadashri: If a married couple takes a
vow of brahmacharya, they will understand the bliss of the Self completely.
Otherwise, they cannot understand whether their happiness comes from sexual
gratification or from the pure Soul.
Those, who are under the vow of brahmacharya, experience eternal bliss
of the Self within. Their mind and body both remain healthy.
Questioner: Then, is the state of the
Self the same for the one who is married
and the one practicing brahmacharya?
Dadashri: The person who is under the
vow of brahmacharya will never fall, no matter how bad the difficulties. That
is called safe side.
Brahmacharya is the king of the body. A person
practicing brahmacharya has a wonderful mind. Brahmacharya is the extract of
the entire living body.
Questioner: This extract of the body,
the vitality, does not go to waste does it?
Dadashri: No. The vitality may
dissipate. It does become useless in
sex does it not? That extract is a very different matter. Lord Mahavir had the
extract of brahmacharya for forty-two years.
Vitality is the ultimate extract of all the extracts from the food we
eat. If this extract is properly preserved, one can quickly attain the Self.
One will be protected from the pains of the world and all bodily ailments.
There will be no suffering of any kind.
Questioner: Does
brahmacharya not come under the non-Self?
Dadashri: Yes, but it is the final
balance and extract of the living body.
Questioner: Then how does the extract
of the non-Self, the living body, help the Self?
Dadashri: The Self will only be
attained through the attainment of the extract of the living body, the
non-Self. This is always the case in the traditional spiritual Kramic path.
Without this there is no progress and one will have difficulty in remembering
and saying simple sentences of scriptures. Because the Gnan that I have given
you is Akram (direct, step-less), this does not matter.
Questioner: Does this mean that there
is a connection between brahmacharya and the experience of the Self?
Dadashri: Of course there is. That is the main point. With brahmacharya
you can achieve whatever you want to. With brahmacharya your worldly aims will
be accomplished. You will be able to follow your vows and commitments. There is
ease of further progress in all directions. The extract of non-Self,
brahmacharya is a big thing. If this is present it opens the Self.
No one has provided a real
understanding on the subject sex to anybody. That is because people themselves
are involved in sexuality. The saints and sages in the olden days were very
sincere and that is why they could talk and make people understand about it.
That sex is poison is not
known. If they did know that sex is poison, they would stay away from it.
Therefore the Lord says that the fruit of knowledge of the Self is continuity.
What is the fruit of worldly knowledge? To stop. One has not known the danger
of sex and therefore he does not stop.
If there is anything to fear, it is the fear of
sexuality. There is no other reason, in this world, where fear is necessary.
Therefore, beware of sex, just like you would be with snakes, scorpions or a
tiger.
After earning merit karmas
over countless lives, one attains birth in a family with good culture and high
moral standing. But all this is lost in
pursuit of sex and money.
So many people ask me, ‘What
is there in this sex that my whole body feels like death after experiencing the
pleasure of sex, my mind dies and my speech dies?’ I tell them that all these
people indulging in sexuality are already dead, but because you have not
awakened to this fact, the same condition occurs again and again. Otherwise if
ever brahmacharya is preserved, each human being has so much energy. The
knowledge of the Self is the ultimate essence of time (samayasaar). This is
real awareness that increases the experience of the Self. And brahmacharya is
the essence of the living body.
The presence of brahmacharya
in the mind, the body and the
speech results in wonderful power of mind, wonderful power of body and wonderful power
of the speech. What type of sexuality existed in the times of Lord Mahavir? The
sex was limited to having one to two children. The Lord knew that this
interaction would become bad in this day and age, so he had to add the fifth
vow of brahmacharya.
It is a real wonder that
humans are stuck in the terrible filth of exploitation of the five senses. It is horrible heap of filth. The world continues to move in this filth, because
people do not understand this. If one gives a moment’s thought to this, then
one would understand that this truly is a heap of filth. It is nothing but
absolute filth. But people do not think at all. Why are human beings stuck in
such dirt? It is because they cannot find a cleaner place(real happiness)
anywhere else, therefore they lie in this filth.
Questioner: So, isn’t this a matter of
ignorance of this filth?
Dadashri: Yes, it is ignorance and
that is why he remains stuck in this filth. If one tries to, he can understand. He does not
even try to understand this.
There are objects in this
world that do not trap you into an inescapable trap of enjoyment. These things
are all that one consumes for the needs of this body, like food items and
water. This is not vishaya. These objects do not harm you, because they do not
make you involved with them to the exclusion of everything else. Vishaya in
general means that which holds your attention. Here we are talking about that
which will grab you and take you into life after life. When is anything
considered a vishaya? It is considered a vishaya if you become greedy or
infatuated with it. Otherwise it is not a vishaya. Therefore, everything you
see in this world is not vishaya but if you become greedy or obsessed with it
then it is called vishaya. No vishaya in this world touches me in any way.
A spider spins a web and
then it gets entangled in its own web. Similarly you, yourself have created
this web of entanglement in worldly life. You had asked for it in your previous
life. In the receptacle of intellect which you have brought forth in this life,
you filled out a tender, a proposal for one wife, two to three rooms, one son,
one daughter and a job. But along with the wife, you also received a
mother-in-law, father-in-law, uncle-in-law, wife’s brother and sister, etc.
What a trap! Had you known about this huge trap, you would have not asked for
it. You only asked for a wife, then why all this? Nature says it cannot provide
just a wife. It also has to give you uncle-in-law, aunt-in-law etc. along with
her. You will not have fun without them, the bigger the clan, the greater is
the fun (!).
Now tell me, what do you
want in the worldly life?
Questioner: I do not want to get
married, ever.
Dadashri: This body is full of
difficulties, is it not? How do you feel about this body when you have a
stomachache? What would happen if you start trading with someone else’s body?
Wouldn’t there be more difficulties? I addition there are two to four children
too. It may be okay if there is only a wife to deal with, as she may cooperate,
but what would happen if there were four children came along, in addition? You
will have endless difficulties.
Before leaving the womb, you
experience so many terrible suffering within the womb and yet when you grow up,
you go back to the womb in the sexual act. Such is the way of this world. No
one has taught you the real thing. Even parents tell you to get married. And
that is parent’s duty, is it not? But, no one gives the right advice about the
pain and suffering involved in married life.
Marriage is a severe
bondage. One’s situation is like that of a water buffalo trapped in a cage. It
is best not to get trapped in such a situation. And those who are already
trapped should try to get out. The rest should escape after tasting its fruits.
A gentleman once told me
that he misses his wife when he is at work. You fool! Would you lick pus off
her hand, if she developed an abscess? Then, why are you so lost by a woman?
This whole body is full of pus. Have you ever thought about what this body is
made of? The amount of love a hog has for a sow is greater than the amount of
love a man has for his wife. Can you call this love? This is nothing but
beastliness. True love is that which never increases or decreases. All this is nothing but infatuation.
The sexual act gratification is nothing but eating
refuse. It is refuse of the whole world. How can this be food for the Soul? The
Self has no hunger, and no need for any external thing. It is absolutely
independent.
Whole world is engrossed in
an illusionary enjoyment. It is not a real. Yet people believe it to be so. If
sexual pleasure was to be analyzed it would lead to severe nausea.
This body turns into ash,
and then a new body is formed from the atoms of this same ash. This is the
result of ashes from endless lives of the past. It is nothing but refuse. And
sex here is the refuse of all refuse. It is the same old ash and the same old
atoms merging together. Even cooking utensils once washed, will look cleaner
the next day. But what if you ate in the same utensils over and over without
cleaning them? Is that not eating
filth?
Say if you ate some
delicious liquid pudding, how would it look if it were vomited out? Would it
look pleasing enough for you to hold it in your hand? Even if the bowl was nice
and clean and the pudding was delicious when you ate it. But if it were
vomited, no matter what happens, you would not eat that vomit. And yet this
other vomited stuff is taken in again. This is the illusion.
Amongst the objects of the
five senses, that of the tongue is the only correct and acceptable one. All
others fool you. This is the only acceptable indulgence, the one of the taste
of food. What would a good quality
alphonso mango taste like? Within the illusionary world this one of taste, is
the one pure vishaya.
Vishaya, sexual process is an excretion. All that is
discharged from the nose, ears, mouth etc. is all an excretion. Even the discharge of semen is an excretion,
an end result, but one cannot remain without being involved totally in it, and
it will not leave without one becoming involved in it at the time.
I am amazed at how an intelligent man finds
gratification in sex. When you analyze sex, it is like scratching an eczematous
lesion. I often wonder, is this all we have done in endless lifecycles? All the
things that we do not like are in sex. It is full of stench. Eyes do not like
to see. Nose does not like the smell it.
Have you ever smelt it? You should have. Then you would lose all
passions. The ears do not like it either. Only the skin likes it.
Sex has not resulted from an
intellectual game and effort. It is simply a distortion of the mind.
I see so much filth and
impurity in sex, that I never have any thoughts about it. I have seen so much
in this that I can see through the contents and cross sections of the person as
a whole.
Man has the wrong belief of pleasure existing in
sex. Now, if you experience greater happiness and pleasure in something other
than sex, then you would not seek pleasure in sex. There is no happiness in sex
but there is no other option for the humans in worldly interactions. Otherwise
who would knowingly open the lid of a gutter? If there were happiness in sex,
Chakravatis (kings of continents) with so many queens, would not have set out
in search of real happiness. With Gnan, Self-realization you attain eternal
bliss. Yet, after this Gnan, sexual impulses do not leave you immediately. They
leave gradually. Still one must think about how filthy and dangerous sexual
involvement is.
It is the disease of man to
see a woman as a woman. When there is no such disease he will not see her as a
woman.
If we count from endless
number of births, men have always married women and vice versa, but still the
fascination in sex remains. When will this ever end? Would it not be better if
you become single so that all these difficulties would end?
Brahmacharya should be
practiced with understanding. If the fruit of brahmacharya is not moksha then,
that brahmacharya is like castration. It will make your body good, strong, and
good looking and you would live longer. Even a bull becomes strong and healthy.
Questioner: I do not feel like getting
married at all.
Dadashri: Really! Will you be okay if
you don’t get married?
Questioner: Yes, my only desire is to
attain brahmacharya. Please give me
some strength and understanding for that.
Dadashri: For that you have to have a
deep inner intent. Everyday, you have to say, ‘Dear Dada Bhagwan! Give me
strength to practice brahmacharya’. And you have to get rid of the slightest
thought of sex as soon as it arises. If not, a seed of sex will be sown. If
allowed to remain, after two days it will kill you. Hence uproot such a thought and get rid of it right away. Next,
make sure that you do not look with sexual thoughts at any woman. If your eyes
happen to pull you towards a woman, pull them away from her, remember Dada and
ask for forgiveness. When it continuously remains within that any element of
sexuality is not worth pursuing then it will all be a clean farm, no seed will
sprout. Even now if one stays under my shelter, then his goal of brahmacharya
will be fully attained.
The one who definitely wants to practice only
brahmacharya, must first examine and severely test his control over his senses,
and if he feels that he may slip, then it is better for him to get married.
Even after that, it should be under control and he should alert her about his
desire for exercising control.
Questioner: What is the method by which
sexual impulses are gotten rid of in the Akram path?
Dadashri: This is a different path.
Here, you do not have to remove any sexual impuses. So many people practice
brahmacharya of the mind, body and speech here. Those who are married, find
their solution from the way that I have shown them.
‘Here’, as the Self there is
no place for sexual impulses or sexuality. ‘This’ place, the Self is eternally
free from any movement. It never leaves its original state (nirvikari).
Sexuality is not poison.
Fearlessness in sex is poison. There is no problem in sex if it has to be done,
as a last resort, just as if a policeman were to force you to do so. It should
not happen by your own choice. Do you have any choice but to sit in the jail if
the policeman puts you there? Is there any escaping from there? Similarly, you
do not have a choice when karma unfolds its account and the sex act in the
mind, speech or body, happens. Any religion that sanctions and allows sexuality
is no religion. Religion exists where there is brahmacharya. No matter to what little extent religion is
present, it must be free from all elements of sexuality.
Questioner: Yes, that is true, but
shouldn’t there be a means of going from one shore of sexuality to the other
shore of brahmacharya?
Dadashri: Yes, for that there is
Gnan. For brahmacharya the right guru has to be encountered. The guru must not
have any element of sexuality. If the guru is sexual in any way, the entire
following will go to hell. They would not be able to see human life again.
Sexuality of any type does not suit a guru.
No religion accepts sexuality in spiritual matters.
Those who allow and accept sexuality in spiritual path are on the wrong path,
in fact on the path opposite of liberation, the path to hell. Such wrong and
misguided paths and teachers did exist in the past, seeking the Self along with
sex.
Questioner: Is that not a form of
deterioration in religion?
Dadashri: Of course, it is
deterioration, a severe one at that. These teachers do not go towards moksha
and they do not let their followers go either. They go down in lower life forms
and take their followers along with them.
Questioner: Despite knowing the
transient nature of sexual pleasure, what is the reason for such an intense
desire for it? And how can it be brought under control?
Dadashri: The world has not known the
nature of sexual impulses and desires at all. It can be brought under control
only if you know how it arises. But, you do not know under what circumstances
it arises. Then how can it be controlled? No one can control it. A person, who
appears to have control, is actually the result of his prior life deep inner
intent for brahmacharya. Otherwise, the only way one can have control over it
is if one finds the root cause of sexuality and puts a stop to it at that
point. It is too late to try and stop it once the sexual impulse expresses as
an effect. If you want to be free from all sexual impulses, I will show you the
way.
Questioner: Gnan is a very critical and
important thing for attaining freedom from sex.
Dadashri: Gnan is the only thing that
will get rid of all forms of vishaya, all entry into objects of enjoyment.
These objects of enjoyment cling to you because of ignorance of the Self.
As hard as you try, no other
approach, besides Gnan, can control vishaya.
Sexuality will not stop with external locks. I have seen some people who
have even gone to the extent of locking up their genitals in their desire to
curb sexual impulses but this does not work.
All sexual impulses and
desires fade in presence of Gnan. These brahmachari followers of Dada here are
free from even thoughts of sexuality.
Questioner: Psychology says that once
you have had your fill of ice cream to the point of full satisfaction, you do
not feel like eating it again.
Dadashri: That is not possible in
this world. On the contrary, you will feel like eating again. But, if somebody
keeps feeding you something that you do not like at all, again and again, then
it will induce vomiting and the intake will stop. In sexuality, the more a
person enjoys it, the more burning becomes his desire for it.
By not getting involved in the sexual act, one may
become uneasy and unsettled for a month or two. However loss of familiarity is
the key. With the loss of familiarity one will forget sexuality totally. It is not possible for a person enjoying sex
to get rid of the desire for it. Hence, research of the scriptures done by
people in our country, has led to the discovery that the path of brahmacharya
is the best. The best cure is to become unfamiliar with sex.
Once you stay away from sex
for one or two years, then you forget all about it. That is the nature of the
mind. If it goes near it, it will become restless. The mind has been separated
from its familiarity. If ‘You’(the Self) stay
separate from it, then the mind stays away from it and therefore it will
forget it forever. It will never remember it again. It will not go there even
if you want it to. Do you understand that? It is like if you stayed away from
your friend for two years then your mind will forget him.
Questioner: When we give the mind the
freedom to enjoy sex, it remains uninterested and when we control the mind, it
becomes restless even more, the fascination for sex increases. What is the
reason for this?
Dadashri: This is not called having
control over the mind. That which does not accept our control cannot be called
control. Shouldn’t there be a controller? You can only control, if you are the
controller. You are not the controller, because your mind does not obey you.
Does your mind obey you?
Mind is not to be
obstructed. Instead, the causes of the mind have to be obstructed. The mind is
a result. It is an effect. It will continue to show the results. It is like the
result of an examination. The result cannot be changed without changing the
answers of the examination. These answers were given in the past life. The
result is now in front of you as the mind. How can you identify the cause of
the effect? How did the mind filled with sex arise? The answer is that it is
stuck in sex. It was stuck in sex in the last life and it is stuck in sex in
this life. One should identify all the places where the mind is stuck in this
life, and cut off the link with it.
Questioner: What is the easiest way of
being free from all sexual impulses?
Dadashri: Coming to me is the
solution. What other solution is there? If you try to give up one passion by
yourself, another one will enter. A vacuum created cannot remain as vacuum. The
moment you give up sexual passions another passion sets in.
Questioner: This
anger-pride-attachment-greed that you talk about, where does sex come in it?
What does sex come under these passions?
Dadashri: sex and kashaya
(anger-pride-attachment-greed) are different. Indulging in sex and crossing its
limits is called greed.
[3] Importance of Brahmacharya
Questioner: Which is better, practice
of brahmacharya without ever getting exposed to marriage or woman/man or
practice of brahmacharya after getting married?
Dadashri: Brahmacharya since childhood
is entirely a different thing. But what are child brahmacharis of today like?
The times are bad these days. If you read about their life, you would get a
headache right away.
I will show you the way to
practice brahmacharya if you want to. You have to follow that way. It is not
mandatory for you to practice brahmacharya. This will only happen if your karma
effects are there in this regard. The vow of brahmacharya to be taken and be
preserved will happen only if your previous karmas are such. It can be
preserved if your deep inner intent (bhaav) from previous life was so. The
other way to preserve brahmacharya is based on your unflinching determination
to do so.
Your unflinching
determination (nischaya) coupled with the energy of my words, which is always
there, will preserve brahmacharya.
Questioner: The charged karmas that
have come with this body from past life, cannot be changed, can they?
Dadashri: No, they cannot be changed.
Yet, sex is one thing that can be changed through the agna of The Gnani Purush.
(here, special agna, the direction given by the Gnani to the one who desires
brahmacharya). But this vow, agna cannot be given to everyone. I have given it
to only few selected people. The agna of a Gnani has the power to change
everything. The seeker of brahmacharya simply has to make a firm decision that
no matter what happens, I will not have anything to do with sex, at any cost.
Then, I would give him the agna and vow of brahmacharya and then the energy of
my words start working in him. His chit will not be distracted anymore.
If a person practices
brahmacharya and attains its full glory then it is a very big thing. What more
one needs when, together with brahmacharya, he has ‘Dada’s Gnan’, this ‘ Akram
Vignan’? This Akram Vignan alone is such that with its experience and the
extraordinary result of the accomplished brahmacharya, one enjoys the bliss of
an emperor of emperors. All the kings of the world will have to bow to him.
Questioner: At the moment, even our
neighbor does not salute.
Questioner: Despite understanding, the
mind still stays fascinated in all the vishayas, objects of enjoyments of the
world. We understand what is right and what is wrong, and yet we cannot be free
from these vishayas. What is the solution for this?
Dadashri: True understanding is one
that produces results. All other understanding is barren.
Questioner: What should one do to make
this understanding fruitful?
Dadashri: I will explain to you in
detail. Then that understanding itself
will continue to produce results. You do not have to do anything. In fact, you
will ruin it if you try to meddle in it. The knowledge, the gnan, the
understanding that produces results, is the right knowledge.
If there is anything in this world that merits
slander, it is the practice of abrahmacharya. Others are not worth disparaging
much.
Questioner: But, psychologists say that
sexual impulses never stop. They stay till the end. Therefore, vital energy of
the semen cannot rise higher towards spirituality, can it?
Dadashri: What I am saying is that
once the opinion about sex changes, sex does not remain! As long as the opinion
about sex does not change the energy of the semen does not rise higher. And
here, in Akram we make a direct entry in to the Self and that is what we call
rising higher. The cessation of sex leads to the experience of the bliss of the
Self. This then leads to the natural rise of the vitality of the conserved
semen. My agna is such that vishaya
will stop.
Questioner: What is in the agna? Is the
agna, instruction to stop overt and gross sexual activity?
Dadashri: I do not say anything to
the external sexual activity. Mind, intellect, chit and ego should remain in
brahmacharya. And if mind, intellect, chit and ego turn towards brahmacharya,
then the extenranl sexuality will shed off automatically. Turn your mind,
intellect, chit and ego. My agna is such that these four do turn, for sure,
towards brahmacharya.
Questioner: How does a Gnani acquire the
energy of these words?
Dadashri: One attains this energy of
words only when one is absolutely free from all impulses of sexuality in mind,
speech and body (nirvishayi). Such energy that unfolds all aspects of sexuality
in true light is not to be found in this world. Only the one who is absolutely
free from all impulses of sexuality has the energy of words that purges
sexuality totally.
The Decision To Remain Unmarried
Questioner: I do not wish to get
married at all, but my parents, friends and relatives are pressuring me to do
so. So, should I get married or not?
Dadashri: If you definitely do not
wish to get married then, because of this Gnan that you have taken, you will
fulfill your goal of human life. Everything is possible with the power of this
Gnan. I will explain how to conduct yourself and with that understanding if you
remain afloat then you will reach the shore of salvation.
There is nothing greater
than the mere thought of taking the vow of brahmacharya and the firm decision
of remaining in it. Such a person has grasped the essence of all the
scriptures. The person, who makes a firm decision of being free from all these
entanglements of the world, has understood all the scriptures. The illusion of
sex is such that it will sink all, even the one who thinks that he has no
attachment to anything in the world. This illusion of sex has sunk great saints
and masters from tremendous spiritual heights.
Questioner: The resolution to follow
brahmacharya has been made. What can be done to strengthen this resolve?
Dadashri: Keep repeating this resolve
and your energy will increase by saying, ‘O ‘Dada Bhagwan’, I am making my
resolution stronger and firmer. Please grant me the energy to strenghthen my
resolve of brahmacharya’. Such words
will increase the energy.
Questioner: Do I have to continue
observing thoughts of sex as they come?
Dadashri: Keep on observing them.
What else can you do? Can you accumulate them?
Questioner: Should I not throw them
off?
Dadashri: You have to keep on
observing. After continuous observation you have to tell Chandresh (file no.
one for those who have taken Gnan) to do their pratikraman. You have to do
pratikraman for any sexual thoughts, desires and gestures that happen in the
mind, the speech and the body. Imagine how much bliss you will experience if
you become free from the thoughts of sex that arise? And just imagine how much
bliss will be there when they are all gone forever.
There are four pillars of
liberation. These are real knowledge,
real vision, real conduct and right penance (gnan, darshan, charitra and tapa).
Now, when does one have to do penance? When thoughts about sex arise and you
maintain a firm decision of not giving in to them, the Lord has called this
penance. When there is no desire for
sex at all, and when thoughts that lead to desire arise, that is where penance
begins.