There exists a relation between father-mother, brother-sister, wife-children, but it is not real. It is only a relative relationship. If it were real, it could never be destroyed. Asfar as relatives are concerned, you should act according to your relationship with them. You should not be rigid or adamant about rights and wrongs if you are to sustain that relationship. Inflexibility will destroy the relationship. When the other person is trying to destroy the relationship, you should mend it if you want to maintain that relationship.  These are all temporary relations. For example if your wife says, ‘ today is a full moon night and you say, ‘no, it is a moonless night’ then the bickering will start and will last all night. In the morning she will be sulking and you will know that the argument is not over when she deliberately bangs the cup of tea while serving you. Instead it is better if you understand the situation when she becomes adamant. Gently turn the argument around, consult a horoscope and pretend to agree with her.  If you do not do that, the argument will get out of control and then if you were to give in suddenly, she will fall harder and you will have to bear the consequences.  Instead it is better to be aware from the start and to let go gently.

 

 

 

Gnani Purush Dadashri

 

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